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What do I do about my dad?

Hi all. I’m getting married in August, and I’m so sad. My mom and dad have been divorced for years and my father is in a different country. I was thinking that I would walk down the aisle by myself, but I don’t know who will give me away and I don’t know what to do about the father and daughter dance. People tell me to dance with a uncle or with my guy’s dad. I just don’t hink I would feel anything that way. Some people say skip all that, priest will not ask who will give me away, and I don’t dance with anyone. But I want to! And the other day when I went to download the wedding march, I burst out crying. I can’t even watch A Wedding on TV without crying. I am so sensitive on this matter. I want to be like all other brides. Have my dad there…I can’t get in touvh with him, that’s out of the question…
Do you have any suggestions?
Thanks a bunch.

Well, one thing first of all that you need to do is realize that your statement: “I want to be like all other brides. Have my dad there” is not only not true, but is causing some of your problem. There are many many women out there facing their wedding without their dads either because they have left, passed away, etc. Yes, it nice to have him there, but you are not going though a situation that is unique, and plenty of women have wonderful weddings without:) It will only hurt you to compare yourself to women who are not in the same life situation as you are as there is nothing you can do about the situation itself anyway.

So – concentrate on what you can do – first of all, there is no rule that says your dad has to walk you down the aisle and give you away – it can be any person who is important to you and has been there for you. Have your mom do it, or a best friend, etc. Yes – it can be a girl, lol. My best friend had her godmother walk her down the aisle and it was lovely.

For giving you away – another option is to have the preist say “Who gives their consent that these two be united in marriage” and then have your mom and his parents all say “We Do” together. Or, have him address the parents asking for their blessing “Do you give your blessing to this marriage? Do you agree to support, love and cherish both (names) as a couple, to respect their marriage and the vows they take her today” to which all the parents say We Will. I also remember on wedding were the priest first asked the bride’s parents is they consented and would accept the groom into their family as one of their own – and then asked the grooms family the same for the bride.

Father/Daughter dance- in truth, this one is better left out, since dancing with someone else will just remind you and everyone else that dad isn’t there. Instead – have a dance were he dances with your mom, and you dance with his dad:)